How to talk to your child after a parent's overdose

Get emergency help before starting this conversation.

If you suspect an overdose, call 911 immediately. Tell the dispatcher what you see and follow their instructions. For suspected opioid overdose, give available overdose reversal medication, such as naloxone, following its instructions.

Do not wait for this page, a reply, or a child to help. This guide is not emergency care, treatment, or therapy.

The words below are for after emergency help is underway. Use them only when another adult can keep your child away from immediate danger. Otherwise, tell emergency responders your child also needs help staying safe.

Find a quieter place with a trusted adult. Keep your first explanation short. A child does not need every detail to deserve an honest answer.

If an overdose has been confirmed, you might say:

“Your parent had an overdose. Something they took harmed their body. The emergency helpers are helping them.”

If you do not know what happened, say that:

“Your parent became very sick. I don't know exactly what happened yet. The emergency helpers are helping them.”

Use the name your child uses for their parent. Say only what responders or the medical team have confirmed. Do not guess the substance, the reason, or whether your child's parent will recover.

For a younger child, try:

“Mom became very sick. The helpers are helping her. You did not cause this. I'm staying with you.”

Only promise to stay if you can. Otherwise, name the trusted adult who will stay.

For a school-age child, try:

“Dad had an overdose. Something he took harmed his body. You did not cause it, and it isn't yours to fix.”

For a teenager, try:

“Mom had an overdose. I'll share what the medical team confirms. You are not responsible for watching or rescuing her.”

These are suggested words, not a clinical script. Let your child ask questions now or later.

A child may ask, “Will they die?” Do not answer with a promise you cannot make.

Try: “I don't know yet. The medical team is helping. I'll tell you when I know more.”

If survival has been confirmed, you can say: “They are alive. I don't know what happens next yet.”

Avoid “just sleeping,” “everything is fine,” or a promised homecoming date. Those words can make the next truth harder to hear.

Name who will care for them tonight, where they will sleep, and who they can ask for help. Confirm the arrangement before describing it.

Try: “Tonight, you'll stay with Aunt Jo. She knows what happened. You can ask her for help.”

Choose an adult who is safe and able to help. Do not make the child check breathing, manage medicines, monitor substance use, or keep the household together.

If your child witnessed the emergency, listen without demanding a detailed retelling. Fear, anger, silence, and questions all deserve room. A pediatrician or qualified child mental-health professional can help you decide what support they need.

For another conversation, read what to say when a parent relapses. For a small parent-led activity, get one thing to do tonight.

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